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Status Checking

Here’s the thing with making lists: they put things into perspective, set milestones, and then, when time keeps rolling on without you getting any closer to your destinations, you know exactly how far you’ve failed.

That, for the record, is the ultimate doom and gloom perspective on to-do lists. And, as someone with 3 bouncing around (I’m including the unwritten one in my head of things that I haven’t written down yet), I am an amateur expert in the field of how much a to-do list can screw with your head. For example, if you look at how I am staking up against my current 2012 resolution list-in-perpetual-revision:

Item Status
One blog post a week Missed one due to technical difficulties!
One new recipe a month Red Velvet Cake from scratch
Gym 3x a week Success!
Eat vitamins/be nutritionally sufficient Vitamins are a go, my body isn’t so sure on point 2, and, for the life of me, I can’t figure out what it is. But this isn’t a discussing health problems post, just a status check. Suffice it to say that I’m not supposed to be so nutritionally sufficient that I’m hosting 3rd party organisms.
Figure out my relationship to social media I’ve started saying “only important” to people in my Facebook newsfeed and only checking in 3-4 times a week, which I find to be very liberating.
Make sure the relationships in your life are meaningful This needs a sub-list!

Okay, it’s not that bad. Isn’t it nifty when things you say (like to-do lists help give perspective), are actually true?

It just feels like the end of the month appears out of nowhere and, instinctively, I flinch because I’M NOT READY YET, THERE WAS STILL ALL THIS STUFF TO DO AND, AND, AHHHHHHHH.

But then, after you’ve scared the neighbors with your awkward high-pitched distress sounds, you take a deep breath and look at your calendar and realize, oh yeah, I did do stuff!

Maybe it wasn’t necessarily “the plan,” but the plan didn’t take into account being invited to go skiing in the Catskills which put me in the perfect place to meet up with an old friend. We’ll gloss over the detail of my being 2.5 hours late due to dinner taking longer than expected and Hunter Mountain being very far north. So I was really, really tired, didn’t get to write or clean my room properly for another week, but I got to go back on the slopes after a multi-year hiatus (because last year’s cross-country adventure doesn’t count, unless you think the elliptical is a good approximation of downhill skiing, in which case you need to reconsider your approach to the sport) and I got to deepen some of my relationships. I had to let one resolution lapse so another could advance.

And I’m starting to think that’s the key to resolutions and to-do lists: not all items are equal in value and sometimes it’s like chess, where you sacrifice a pawn to ultimately win the game. Maybe the milestones aren’t linear, and you’ll only hit some. Maybe that’s considered failure, or maybe I need to add “be more flexible with lists” to my to-do list.

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Places to go (or not)

I thought that I had put up a filler post last week, to keep things from dying out while I was at a week’s worth of work training. It didn’t happen, and I don’t know why.

Consequently, there are a couple filler links here and then a real post in the next few days.

Making a List; Checking It Compulsively

I’m an obsessive documenter, not in the traditional journalistic fashion (as the paltry number of posts present on this blog would attess to) but in a more obscure and bare-bones way: I love planners and to-do lists.

Planners are the only reason I know what I’ve done and what I’m going to do. My enthusiasm for seeing people can sometimes override the practicality of meeting up with five separate people in four different parts of Manhattan on a Thursday afternoon because I’ll be in the city and texted everyone I know there. I have considered the merits of sleeping less (although I love it) because it would free up more time to do things, and there is always food in my car so if I forget to allocate enough time to eating—well, at the very least I won’t pass out behind the wheel.

It’s not that every day is a crazy bustle, it’s just that my schedule is clumpy: some weeks everything is happening and I get to see everyone, whereas others I sit at home and debate picking up another tv show. Planners keep me going through the busy and anticipating during the slow.

And, if it’s slow, there’s always that to-do list of mine. A couple months ago I started keeping a personal rolling to-do list, in mirror of the one I have at work, so that everything I need to do is in one place and each section starts with a date. If I think of it, it goes on the list.

Mostly this list is mundane, but it’s something to keep me going and not panicking because WHAT IF I FORGOT TO DO SOMETHING IMPORTANT. Well, not only would have I forgotten to do it, I would have also forgotten that I had to do it. So, ipso facto, it didn’t exist!

Get Shit DoneSource: Mlkshk.com

Sometimes I use my planner as a to-do list too, making notes to Future Me about deadlines and possible penciled in adventures. So it probably comes as no surprise, especially after my 2011 reflection post, that I LOVE new year’s resolutions. You date them and instill within them a year’s worth of reflection and optimism. At the end of the year, when you look back, they are the clearest signposts on the road, however paved or twisted, that you’ve spent the past year living.

Some of mine have been rolling resolutions of years (read 10 good books; make a thing a week; a piece of fruit a day) with limited success (Goodreads tells me I’ve succeeded; still need to be more consistent; usually pretty good, pomegranates after this post), and others are fresh for this year. I’ve added dates when I can, categorized them by type, am considering deadlines and travel partners, and really looking forward to another year.

This is probably my most ambitious year, resolution-wise, and, undoubtedly, my most neurotic, resolution-wise and not life. I’ve even set an intention (be more thoughtful in word, action, and, um, thoughts), a sign that yoga twice a week will be good for me as well. But, I’m also considering it a master to-do list, a living document of goals and ambitions. I realize that not everything may be accomplished, although non-negotiables will be annotated as such, and new things may be added as opportunities arise.

What matters most is that in 362 days with 52 weekends, I’ll be able to reflect upon 2012 and feel the same sense of accomplishment and optimism that I feel now thinking about 2011. Once again I will have cultivated new things and nurtured those I am blessed enough to have in my life already. Plus, it’s a leap year so there’s extra time!

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In 2011…

I traveled to:

  1. Taiwan
  2. Vermont
  3. Lake George, NY
  4. San Francisco
  5. Atlantic City
  6. Scotland

I attended:

  1. A late gift exchange in January and an early one in December, pot lucks at both
  2. An International Food and Restaurant Show in New York City
  3. Couchadelphia
  4. A surprise birthday party
  5. An amazing thesis presentation about the psychology behind research laboratory design, and how scientists really don’t like socializing (even when their buildings force them to)
  6. Ag Field Day and the NJ Folk Festival
  7. A panel for Girl Scouts about Women in the Sciences and Engineering, as a Bachelor of the Sciences Finance major working in Information Technology
  8. A tie dyeing party
  9. A family picnic with homemade Jamaican food
  10. Two going away parties
  11. One welcome home party
  12. Two 5Ks, one I directed runners and one I ran in 35 minutes
  13. Rhinebeck Sheep and Wool!
  14. A 4 hour lunch at a local Afghani restaurant
  15. A 25 mile bike ride
  16. Reunions for a college dance troupe, a college art/lit mag, study abroad, and overseas volunteer friends
  17. Trivia at a hole in the wall bar in Princeton
  18. A birthday party at a cowboy bar
  19. A brunch at a Pakistani buffet with 4 different beef dishes in a row, rose water ice cream that tasted like perfume, and pink tea that was very pink and not very tasty
  20. A lovely New Year’s Eve at friends of a friend’s apartment in the Lower East Side, to cap of a year with many, many trips to NYC

I saw:

  1. Black Swan
  2. Riverdance
  3. An exhibit on war photographers, modern Chinese photography, 9/11, Harper’s Bazaar photography, and Depression era photography at the International Center for Photography
  4. A Doctor Who premiere
  5. My college Chinese Dance Troupe perform, with the Filipino cultural dance group and their accompanying buffet dinner
  6. Marina & the Diamonds
  7. Harry Potter 7, Pt 2 at midnight
  8. Savage Beauty: Alexander McQueen at the Met
  9. A nighttime community production of Hairspray at an outdoor theatre
  10. Sufjan Stevens, in Brooklyn, perform his newer electronic dance album complete with crazy props
  11. IKEA twice in one weekend (lingonberry sauce and meatballs are delicious all the time though)
  12. Rocky Horror, live, and lost my Rocky Horror virginity
  13. And tasted art at the Princeton Art Museum
  14. Frank Turner at Theatre of the Living Arts, which has a fancy name
  15. The Muppets Movie, at midnight
  16. Sherlock Holmes 2: A Game of Shadows

Overall I’d say it was a good year, and I look forward to doing even more in 2012. Hope you had a great one too!

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Christmas in New York, 2011

Edge of a Tree

Like they say, there’s nothing quite like it. Except, I’ve never really seen any other cities at Christmas, so perhaps it’s just hometown bias. Click any picture to see it larger.

Macy's Light Tree

Macy's

Gingerbread Wheel

Robot Christmas

Red Trees

Rockefeller

Hazy Tree

Silver Bush

Fendi

Trump Tower Wreath

Henri Bendel

Elf

5th Ave Star

F.A.O. Schwartz

Saks 5th Ave Light Show

Red Balls

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